18 Jun As a self-acknowledged workaholic, it can be hard for me to make time for sex, let alone post-sex cuddles
I could stand to incorporate a little more aftercare into my sexytime routine-especially considering my boo's love language is words of affirmation and physical touch. (Not sure of your partner's love language? Here's how to talk about it-and other convos for a healthy sex life.)
One Sunday after toying around with some new pleasure products, my partner and I decided to give more intentional aftercare a try 
. We spent hours appreciating, spooning, and loving on each other. As you might guess, it was romantic as shit and really opened a door for us to talk about our
Redefine Shower Sex
The consensus among Redditors is that shower sex is, well, awful, and best left to the movies. "0/10 would recommend, I'm staying to regular ol' cramped car or bed sex," writes one Reddit. "I fear for my life when I'm [having sex] in the shower," writes another.
Despite this seemingly universal stance against shower sex, there's a whole thread of tips on making it better. (Related: A Sexologist's Top Tips for Making Shower Sex Amazing)
Considering my partner and I regularly shower together but rarely engage in hanky-panky while there, we decided to give one of the tips a try: Replace penetrative shower play with foreplay.
"Shower sex, as hot as it may sound, can be physically very taxing and dangerous, especially when there's penetration involved," says Finn. And because water washes off the body's natural lubricant, penetration can become downright uncomfortable, she says.
But "taking penetrative vaginal and anal sex off the table isn't just a smart safety measure," says Taylor. "It also allows you to explore oral sex, vibrator play, massage, non-penetrative hand sex, massage, and other sex acts that you might usually overlook." (Related: The Best and Safest Shower Sex Positions).