01 Jul Rarely are fights just about sexual intimacy, the doctors explain
Everyone has them, but they can be destructive to relationships
But these destructive disagreements can often undermine both partners' self-confidence. One example, Judith says, is when a partner associates sex with a time to be held, cuddled, and feel affection. Ideally, you're feeling already close and sex is your way to express that instead of using that to get close." This is another area where it's up to you to ask for what you need.
This fight is a Valentine's Day classic. "It's like, 'If he really loved me, he'd know what to buy me or to take me to the right restaurant,'" Judith says, pointing again to unrealistic expectations. "No! Come on! Being in a relationship isn't having someone to read your mind. It's saying what it is you need and want, allowing your partner to know what your yearnings are, what you desire, what pleases you, to really be able to share that. But so many women think, 'Well if I have to tell him, it doesn't count.' Yes it does! It so does!'"
Some days, your partner's loud chewing is enough to make your head explode.